Spiritual writer Henri Nouwen guides us: “In a world that constantly asks us to make up our minds about other people, a nonjudgmental presence seems nearly impossible…but it is one of the most beautiful spiritual fruits of deep spiritual life and will be easily recognized by those who long for reconciliation.”

Moreover, such a stance allows us to seek reconciliation with others, rather than keep them at bay and isolated, lost, drifting.  When we take the energy and effort of judgment and transform it into authentic love, there we will witness true charity to toward ‘the other’ as ‘another’.